The Lame Dame



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Everyone deserves to be seen as who they are, such as disabled people who want their sexuality to be recognized. Because our society places so much stake in, particularly women’s, sexual desirability that values whiteness, thinness, and able bodied appearance, widespread desexualization of visibly disabled people goes hand-in-hand with the dehumanization of disabled people. This desexualization is directly related to the higher levels of sexual assault and abuse that disabled people experience.


Disabled Pride/Disabled Pain: Center For Sex and Culture Opens Another Closet Door

(via disabilityhistory)



my message to allistic allies is to do your research before donating to any autism-related charity. Find out what their purpose is. If there’s anything about a “cure,” that’s a hate group, not a charity.

Coming from an autistic, ASAN (Autistic Self Advocacy Network) and AWN (Autistic Women’s Network) are some good ones that I recommend. 

Disability Thinking: When "Despite" Is Really "Because"


I can’t prove it, but I suspect that many police and a great many ordinary citizens think that mental illness is actually a justification for deadly force, not a reason to avoid it.


As long as this needs to be said I will keep on saying it.


As long as this needs to be said I will keep on saying it.


Photos by Holly Spring of her daughter, who has no hand on her left arm and “struggled early on in life with Hirschsprung’s Disease.” 

Image description: Three ethereal, whimsical, artfully photoshopped photos of a young girl with pale skin and reddish-brown hair. The fact that she has no left hand is visible in the photos. In the first, she’s dressed in a purple dress with purple wings and a purple mask painted around her eyes. In the second, she’s wearing a white dress that becomes a net/sea at the bottom. In the third, she wears a green dress and balances on a piece of wood arising from a misty green pond surround by green trees and bushes.


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poo talk ahead

Oof, rough stuff. And disordered eating because of gastro issues is hard, cuz fixing ur habits and emotions around food dont fix the gut. (and docs can take forever to fix the gut)

I do have a magic rice and cream corn meal for when things go wonky, just so i can sort of self monitor and reset. i know it wont make me worse, it takes x time to pass(if alls on order), and the corn helps me gauge if anythings stuck or not sticking long enough.



"bitch, i might be a douchebag: a brief photo collection."

reblog or you’re a coward

I think what that question means is like... Idk I don't think ppl think ppl with disabilities are Risky I think the thing is that they're asking themselves could they take care of said disabled person if it came to that. Like esp if ur physically disabled u may have serious health issues and I don't think u should date someone that has the possibility to be very unwell if ur just gonna dump them when they get unwell



Wooooow. Here is Ableism 101, right here, in response to this

I don’t know that this even deserves a response, but here goes.

Many disabled people do not require any “special” care from partners. Many abled people do require “special” care from partners. Most good relationships, romantic or otherwise, are built on some degree of interdependence, wherein each person provides the other with love, care, and assistance in a generally egalitarian way.

Disabled people often overcompensate for the things we “can’t” do, yet our contributions are undervalued

For disabled people who need significant daily care, we would generally prefer that that not come from one person/partner, for the same reason that it’s dangerous for anyone to be completely reliant on one person: it’s setting us up for abuse. Sometimes we don’t have a choice. But we are working toward independent living and making sure that everyone has the resources they need to live independently, regardless of whether they have a romantic partner, sibling, parent, friend, etc. to care for them.

But if that’s what you’re afraid of, I’ve got news for you: anyone can become disabled at any time. Anyone can get very ill. Dating the healthiest, most abled person you see is no guarantee of anything.

It’s a serious fucking problem that you hear “disability” and think "burden," in a post about how that conflation is wrong.

Disabled people are not burdens. We are not burdens to society, we are not burdens to our friends, we are not burdens to our families, we are not burdens to our partners.

With that said, you, Anonymous, don’t have to want to date us. I’d really rather you didn’t.



Spoonie dilemma: the ambient heat of the room is making my skin crawl but I need to keep the heating pad on my sore muscles or I will scream

FL Spoonie Survival Tip!

Ice pack or a wet rag on your neck/face/wrists will keep you feeling cooler while you have to use heat on other parts

also, switch it up a lot, try to keep both the hot and cold moving